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If It’s not a Hell Yes, It’s a Hell NO!

Have you ever been trying to decide something and you kept weighing the pros and the cons, and you just couldn’t make any kind of a decision? And the more you tried the more frustrated you got and you maybe even felt sick to your stomach. Well, I have a simple solution to all that. My motto is that if it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a “HELL NO!”

Okay, I know that sounds too simple, but I’m telling you it works. And I’m not saying that it will never turn into a hell yes, I’m saying that when you feel anxious or scared or nervous, or any other ugly feeling, make it a hell no. Then you have at least made a decision and your mind can clear out. Once you get your head out of the way you can go on and do something else, or lets say, anything else,and lo and behold the answer you really want will just come to you.

You see, when you are chasing the answer, it always eludes you. It’s like a game of cat and mouse. But, when you relax and forget about it for a while, the right answer will appear like magic. You know, the problem and the solution are two very different vibrations. So you need a clear mind to let the solution come more quickly, and easily I might add. Again, I know this sounds too simple, but it’s true. The more you stress, the more stress will be there for you. But on the other hand, the more you relax and have fun, the more you’ll be able to follow your inner guide to do what feels best for you.

As I say over and over again, and I learned it from Abraham-Hicks, life is supposed to be good. And when it isn’t good for you, then you are the only one that can do anything about it. And what is it you are supposed to do, you ask? Well first of all you need to pay attention to your words. What you say is very important. If you are putting yourself down in any way, you are limiting yourself big time. Every time you say something like “I’m so dumb”, you are telling your subconcious mind that you are not smart, and it believes you. So guess what, you are not smart. But if you catch yourself saying those kinds of things and change it immediately to something like, “I’m not dumb, just ignorant of how to do that particular thing.” you are just saying you haven’t learned that particular thing yet. Or if you say things like “I am fat”, you are going to continue to be fat. You can change that to, “I am perfect as I am as I am finding my true weight.” then there are the feelings that you feel. Pay attention to how you feel when you say things to yourself. Yes, I said when you say things to yourself. You need to talk to yourself often. Let yourself know that you care about how you feel and how you look. You can do this while looking in the mirror, which is something Louise Hay teaches. She says to tell yourself everyday that you love you. But if that seems uncomfortable say, “I’m willing to love you” as you look yourself in the eye. Eventually you will be able to really feel the love come through. All these simple exercises help take your mind to new places.You will discover new things and talents you never even knew you had. When you truly love yourself your whole outer world will change for the better. But you have to practice all day every day, until it becomes the norm for you. And then you will always know if it’s a hell yes or a hell no. You will be in touch with your inner being who always has your back. You will be more able to trust that you make right decisions for yourself. This is how Abraham-Hicks says it, “You will be working in concert with infinite intelligence.” We are all part of this infinite intelligence whether we know it or not. We have the power right here right now to create our own worlds individually, in any way we choose. Remember, happiness is a choice, just as misery is a choice. You have the power right now to start your journey to self love and true improvement over your personal life. Now is all we have at any given moment. The past is gone and the future has not been written yet. We can be, do or have anything our hearts desire.

Look, there are thousands of books, meditation, videos, mantras, and famous quotes,etc. that you can find if you really want to change your life. Leave everyone else out of the equation when making a decision. After all, they are only the peanut gallery, and they don’t know what’s best for you. Only you know that. So again, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a HELL NO! At least until you change your mind.

I hope this blog helped you. This is one of my favorite mantras because it gives me the freedom to make the right choice for me. So go forth and find love from within, and talk to yourself everyday. Give yourself good advice as you would to a friend or a child. You are a worthy being, and you are infinite intelligence. You are an infinite being as well. Live life your way. Like Frank Sinatra sings, “I did it my way.” He had the right idea. So until next time remember, there is always great love here for you.


Deb Mertan


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