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One Life Does Not Fit All

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Do you realize how many people are on this planet? Well let me tell you, there are a lot. And I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that not any two of them think exactly alike. Oh, there are clusters of people like church groups that try to get everyone to think and do everything the same way. But deep down we are all who we are. And that’s a good thing. Yes we might have similar beliefs but each person has his or her own perspective, and sees things the way they want to see them. Haven’t you and a friend read the same book or seen the same movie, and at the end you both had very different views on the outcome? It is because no one has had the same exact experiences in his or her life so they all see things from a different point of view. Example: When there is a car accident and there are a lot of people seeing it happen, but they are all looking on from different places, some are on the sidewalk on the east corner some are on the west corner some are in cars driving by, and some are looking out a store window, they all think they know exactly what happened. The police take statements from 10 different people and get 10 different stories. No two stories are exactly the same because they all had different points of view.

Another not so gruesome example is the board game Boggle. It has a little square box with little squares holes that dice with letters on all 6 sides fit into. It also has a cover to the box which allows the players to mix up the letters by shaking the box and letting the dice settle back into the holes. Then you remove the lid and turn the 2 minute sand timer over and you try to find as many words as you can and you write them on a piece of paper. The one with the most words wins. You would think that since all the letters are in plain sight for everyone to see everyone would write the same words. But because they are all in a different position they all have a different perspective. It is very interesting.

The way I came up with the title of this blog was from a bill board stating that one size does not fit all. But it made me think about life and how we are all so different. When I saw that sign it felt like it was just for me. I have never believed that one size could fit all or even most, or for that matter even some. But one thing that could fit all is living your happiest life ever. It got me thinking about how happy I am now that I am not trying to please anybody else but myself. And how I stopped expecting anyone else to be my source of happiness. I don’t worry anymore, I don’t get mad, I’m never late to anywhere I am going, I love me more and I love others more. I look for fun things to do even during work or other menial tasks like going to the DMV or the doctor’s office. I smile most of the time and I care about how I feel about anything and everything. If it makes me feel good to do or think something then I will continue to do so. But if it doesn’t I will do my best to think of something that does. You have choices, you can be mad or sick or stuck if you want to, or you can be happy or feel wellbeing or feel free flowing if you make different choices. Oh, it won’t be a quantum leap but instead it will come in small increments, until one day you will just wake up happy, and you’ll realize that by continually making the effort, little by little, you have changed a negative feeling into a good feeling and you are finally there. And from now on you will know this feeling and it will become addictive, but better than any drug that you could ever use. And when something happens that used to get you down, you will be able to see it from a different perspective and come to a better conclusion.

So one life does not fit all or most or even some. We are all individuals. Do you think that just anybody can be president? Oh wait. Apparently just anybody can be president. Let me put it this way, do you think just anybody wants to be president? NO, every single person wants what he or she wants. So the big question is, do they let their selves have whatever that is? If the answer is no then they must be trying to please someone else or a lot of someone else’s. Being true to one’s self is the most important and essential way to live, if you want to live a happy and authentic life. The more you be who you want to be the more authentic you are. I had a guy tell me once that I was very organic. I’m not sure if he was using the right word but I really liked the way it sounded. I really do look for the fun, or maybe I just expect it, so it happens. I just trust myself to know what I like and I know I am a worthy person and I have nothing to worry about because there is nothing serious going on here.

So what are you going to do now? Are you going to start allowing what you want to come or are you going to dwell on the fact that it hasn’t come yet? Believe me the universe knows what you want and knows how to b ring it to you. It’s up to you to trust and let it flow.

Life is supposed to be good. And if you feel stress or struggle or fear of any kind you are holding yourself away from the good that is always calling you forward. Start listening to your inner self and follow your bliss to become the happy person you are meant to be. Be off with you now and have fun!

Remember there is always tremendous love for you here.


Deb Mertan


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