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Would You rather Be Right or Happy

You know, it’s nice to be right, but at what cost? When all you care about is being right and you argue about it, that causes angst and it lowers your true energy field. And when your energy is low you don’t feel good. And feeling good is what we all strive for. That’s why I say, I’d rather be happy than right. Not everyone will agree on all subjects, so let everyone else believe what they want to believe, and you believe what you want to believe. Therefore you can stay in a happy mood. In order to live happily ever after you have to care about how you feel.

You see, when you care more about how other people feel, rather than your own feelings, you give up your power. It is so important that we all care about how we feel, but that’s not to say that we should be mean to anyone else. It just means that we all have the right to feel the way we want to feel. And no one else has the right or the ability to inject their feelings on you. Once you learn how to care about how you feel, your whole life will change for the better.

Here’s an example: Recently I have moved my dad in with me. You see, he has dementia and it was not good for him to live alone anymore. It was not something I ever thought I would have to do, but being the oldest of five children, and the one that lives closest to him, I felt it was the best thing to do. At first I thought I could handle whatever was going to happen, but soon realized it was not going to be a piece of cake having him here. I actually moved his bed, his recliner and his dresser into my room, which is a pretty big room, but it’s really full now. That part was okay though. But soon I realized that he kept trying to get out of the room and he’d wander around the house and get into things. So I had to try different ways to catch him in the act. First I attached a string of christmas bells to the door knob, but he would quietly unwind them and get out. Then I stacked three heavy boxes against the door and still had the bells attached. But he learned to scoot the boxes away from the door and unwind the bells very quietly and again escape. People kept telling me to get sleeping pills for him, but I thought I could handle things myself. I felt like I was on high alert all the time. It got to where I wasn’t sleeping very well, and I was getting very cranky. And I was taking my anger out on him. I could feel myself turning into a monster. I knew I had to do something about it. I finally got a small alarm for my bedroom door and got some melatonin to help him sleep. And guess what, it worked. I had to admit that my friends were right about the sleeping pills. In fact they worked so well that he doesn’t try to get out anymore and the alarm has never gone off. As time went on I started getting more sleep and feeling less grouchy. Which in turn made me more happy. Although I am still figuring out how to deal with a person who can’t remember anything from one second to the next, I have to admit that being happy is a much better way to live. I am the only one that can take care of me, and I choose to be happy, no matter what else is happening around me.

You see, happiness is a choice. And when you decide that it is more important to feel good than to be mad or hateful, life will show you more ways to feel good. Remember, love equals love. And self-love is the key to greater love. And you can’t expect anyone else to change to make you happy. You are the only one that needs to change. Then everything else around you will change in miraculous ways. And you can be, do or have anything your heart desires. And also remember that everything is temporary. It is what it is, until it isn’t anymore. You are the boss of your own life. But you have to speak, think and live the life you do want, and stop talking about how bad things are. Focus on good stuff. See the good in others. Know that you have the right and the responsibility to make your life as good or as bad as you choose to. But if I were you I would choose good. Show the world what a happy person looks like.Be your best self and never listen to the peanut gallery. They haven’t lived your life, and they don’t matter anyway, no matter who they are.

Now go out there and be the best you can be. And remember there is always great love for you here.

Sincerely, Deb Mertan


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