What would this world be like if we let fear rule all our decisions? What if Thomas Edison let
fear of failing keep him from figuring out the light bulb? We would still be using oil lamps and candles. Or what if NASA decided not to go to the moon because they got scared?
We would not have things like Tang and memory foam. If people like this let fear interfere we would still be living in the dark ages.
I’m not saying that fear is not important or real; I’m saying that even though we feel fear we have to face it and keep moving forward.
Have you ever heard the story of the Phoenix? It’s a mythical bird that burns to ashes and is then re-born out of the ash to start life anew. That is the way it was told in the Harry Potter series too, and that is the way I had always heard it told. It really had no significant meaning to me because I had no idea why it burned in the first place. Then one day I came across a story about the Phoenix that was a little different then I was told. It went like this… The Phoenix dives into the fire and then burns to ashes, then from the ash you can see the little baby bird head peek out and emerge to start a new chapter of its life. This now made sense to me. It opened my eyes and gave the story a whole new meaning.
I decided right then and there that this is what I must do in my own life. From now on I will face my fears by jumping into the fire and ultimately kick there asses, and when I emerge it will be into a new light and a new chapter of my life will begin.
Life is too short to worry about things we have no control over. I can’t make someone love me or change the weather or bring a loved one back to life, but I do have control over my actions and reactions to situations that arise in my life. So even though I’m scared out of my mind at times and my fear is telling me, “No don’t do it, what if I don’t succeed, what if no one likes my ideas, what if, what if, what if,” I will ignore it. In fact, I will go one step further and say back to it that it is my duty to defy and challenge it, for if I don’t I will be nothing more than a puppet who is controlled by the people around me, trying to please everyone yet pleasing no one, least of all myself.
From now on I will let life live me. I will stop trying to control the things I can’t. I will let the adventure unfold and see where life takes me. I will eliminate the negative people and things in my life and surround myself with positive people and feelings. And my new mantra will be, “It’s all good”, because even when things seem to be at their worse and we feel that it’s never going to get better; something good always follows.
So I say to all of you reading this blog, “Stop letting fear interfere and dive into the fire. I promise you that you will emerge into a new light. You will find what truly makes you and you alone happy. You will find yourself on a wonderful and beautiful path. That is the only control we truly have”.
With Love,
Deb Mertan