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Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the main beholder is you. When you feel beautiful, you will look beautiful. It’s like having the ugliest little Chihuahua, she’s blind, has hardly any teeth and sheds like a beast. You think to yourself, “How could I ever love this thing?” But as time goes on you start to notice all the little things she does that make you laugh, and how she cuddles with you when you’re watching T.V. together. Before you know it you are in love and she’s the most beautiful dog in the world. That is how we are supposed to look at ourselves. We need to find the good stuff, like how funny we are, if applicable, or how sweet we are. We need to be the people we want to be and that alone will help us like ourselves more. We need to treat ourselves with kindness and not freak out when we makes mistakes. Mistakes could turn out to be good, look at Plexiglas or penicillin, they were accidents but they turned out to be great! Not everyone is born looking like the Princess Grace of Monaco, she was a true beauty, inside and out. And of course there are those really beautiful people that don’t even know that they are because someone has convinced them otherwise. For those of us that are more regular, there are many ways to show the true beauty that is in all of us.

Now in order to find your true beauty there are a few simple steps you could take to start the process. It involves looking inward and looking for all the things you love about yourself. This is a form of self-love that will definitely stir up more thoughts and feelings about the things you love about you. And even if a person is beautiful on the outside but has a bad attitude they seem ugly to other people. Not everyone sees the same thing when they look at the same person either. For example I think the actress, Kim Basinger is beautiful, but my brother says no she’s not. Of course we don’t know her personally but from what we can see we both have different perspectives. But my brother also thinks the actress Daryl Hannah is gorgeous and I really don’t. So you see it is all personal preference. I’m sure if we got to know those two ladies we would both change our views according to how they acted in real life. Personalities are very important in the way people view others. You can meet someone and at first glance think that they are hideous but after even a few minutes you can change your point of view just by talking to them and seeing that they are a truly kind and beautiful person. It happens!

You’re probably wondering why I even brought this up. But the truth of the matter is I have not always felt so beautiful. Not that I thought I was horribly ugly, but I didn’t think I was any more than average. After starting a regimen of self-love I started seeing myself in a whole new light. I started taking more pride in the way I dressed and the way I talked about myself. I stopped saying anything negative, such as I’m so stupid or I’m fat or anything that would bring my spirits down. When I would catch myself saying things like that I would immediately change it to something positive, like, I’m not stupid, just ignorant of the facts. Or, I’m not fat, I’m a beautiful woman on my way to becoming an even more beautiful woman. Of course at first this sounds foreign to someone that is not used to saying nice things to their self, but in time as you keep changing the negative to a positive whenever you catch yourself, it becomes easier and more comfortable. Practice, practice, practice. That is the remedy for anything you want to change in your life. Little by little if you start and keep using these techniques you will notice how by you caring more about you other people will too. Not only adults but even the smallest of babies will notice your beauty and want to make eye contact with you. You may even draw a big smile from them. Not to mention the animals that will see you as a very fascinating person and want to warm up to you. You see, it all starts with you. How do you want to be treated? Treat yourself the way you want to be treated and everyone else will treat you that way too.

When you are busy being nice to yourself it doesn’t leave much time for finding fault with anyone else so your relationships with your loved ones will automatically improve as well. You may even become an example to others on how to become happier in their own existence. It really becomes great fun when you stop beating yourself up about things you can’t change or have any control over. Look for ways to see the real you and ignore the things that make you feel bad. Life is wonderful when you look for the fun and live as happily as you can every day.

So if you are ready, show the world your beauty by starting with showing yourself your true beauty. It is not hard to do, you just have to want to do it. Be brave and look into your soul and bring out the true you so that everyone can see what a terrific person you are. Love yourself like a fat kid loves cake and life will just keep getting better and better. And never forget that there is great love here for you. So until we meet again.

With all my love,

Deb Mertan


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