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A Deliberate Creator


Please believe me when I say that you and every single living thing on this planet are much more than this physical body, that you see as you. Everything is from the source that some people might call God or your higher self or any number of beliefs that a person might have. There is definitely a spiritual side to all of us that is always with us and always wanting only our well being. If you could just wrap your head around this concept you would see just how much you have been creating by default, and how easily you could start being a deliberate creator. You can actually create the world you want to live in on purpose. When I say creating by default I mean that you are just observing what is and taking that as your reality instead of knowing that you are the boss of you and you can change your old beliefs and start believing what feels right to you and only you.

I can look back on my life now and see how things have always worked out for me. And I know that a lot of it was not conscious. But there have also been times that I was pre-paving by talking about what I wanted and not letting doubt get in the way. But even doing that was not with the knowledge of me working in concert with the universe. I just knew I wanted whatever it was and I was sure going to find a way of letting myself have it. And what I mean by pre-paving is just keeping a positive focus on what you want, and not worrying about how long it takes to get to you in physical form. This is the working in concert part. You don’t plant a seed and expect it to grow over night. You understand that there is a process and that if you tend to it properly by watering it and giving it time to grow that eventually you will have the plant that the seed turns into.

I used to live my life trying to please other people like my parents, or the teachers in school, or the government who are always trying to control the masses with rules and laws that don’t always have the best intentions for the masses, but are put in place to help the rich get richer and keep the rest of the people struggling. I used to think that I had no choice but to follow their rules and live a mediocre life. But now that I’m older, and I have a few experiences under my belt, I know that I can be, do or have anything and everything I want. By reading books and finding ways of uplifting my spirit from the inside out I have come to realize that the only person I need to please is me. Once I came to this conclusion I started on a journey that I know will last a life time. I know now that there is no going back. Once you get a taste of deliberate creation you can’t stop. It’s an addiction that you don’t want to give up. I have been working on myself for years now, but it wasn’t until I found out what the missing piece was to getting my life the way I wanted it to be. It is in the keeping yourself happy that makes all the difference. The way I found to stay happy a majority of the time is by not observing what was happening in the world around me and only focusing on my bliss. Oh yes, and not giving a crap about what anyone else thinks. They are not living my life. They don’t know what truly makes me happy. So why are other people trying to get you to do what they think you should do? Because they are looking for love in all the wrong places. Other people think that by getting you to do what they want will show that you love them, but it usually leads to resentment, which is not a good feeling at all. Now I’m not saying you should never do things for other people, I’m saying to only do it if you really want to, otherwise say no as politely as possible.

I have a good example of someone living a life that was not in alignment with his true self. It was at a time when being gay was very taboo, and even though this person had these feelings he tried to suppress them and live a heterosexual life. After four children and ten years of marriage he finally couldn’t deny it anymore. And when he did come out it turned into a nightmare. His wife was very confused and hurt and his kids didn’t know what to think. His dad was so upset he wanted to kick his ass, but he never did. And because he waited so long to be true to himself he went ape shit and ended up contracting aids. I know that this story is a little extreme but it just goes to show how not allowing yourself to be true you can do more harm than good.

As it is very true that we don’t all want the same things in life, which is good because that would just be nuts, it is also true that we can have, do or be anything we do want. We just have to be clear on what it is we do want and not destroy the dream with negative or contrary thoughts. And patients is a virtue. Just like the seed in the ground, once you plant it you have to know that the process is under way and all you have to do is go on with your life while it grows. Be easy about it, and don’t take unnecessary action. Wait for the inspired action to come. You’ll know when the time is right. There is such a thing as too much effort. Take your time and let the idea take shape before taking too much action. When you are truly following your bliss you will find that what you want comes easier and faster than you can imagine. It’s almost magical. But it is the way it should be. Life is meant to be abundant in all areas. You hit the lottery in so many ways everyday of your life. Just look around at the friends you have and the love that comes from friends and family. Look around and appreciate the beauty that shows up every morning with each new sunrise. The sky is like a giant canvas and every day there is a new painting to observe and be awed by. We all have so much to be joyful about, we just have to realize it and look for the silver lining every chance we get. Life can be so delicious if we let it.

When we worry or fret we block ourselves from the good stuff that is right outside our door waiting for us to let it in. The way to let it in is to stop resisting our urges and going with the flow. The flow of life that feels good and natural. Not forced, not because we have to, but easy and joyful. Relax into life and stay calm. Give yourself permission to rest more and have fun. Speak only about what you want in your life and never look back at what was, unless you want to keep it active in your world. See only the good in other people. And if there is someone in your life that is not matching your vibe it’s okay not to be around them. Your world is just that, you are the boss and no one can tell you how to live except you. Love yourself wholly. Be nice to yourself every day. And always know that the bigger part of you, your spirit, is always with you and is always willing to guide, assist, uplift and love you unconditionally. Yes, once you feel your god given power and realize that life is good there is no turning back. Being deliberate is so wonderful and awesome that once you practice yourself into your new world, you will never want to feel bad again. Yes, there will be times when you may have an un-expected reaction to some situation, but it is so much easier now to pull away from those bad feelings and align with your inner being (person) who is always seeing you as the person you are meant to be. And when I say practice I mean that this is an on-going thing that you will never get done. Because each time you reach a goal that will just cause you to set a new one. And you can’t get it wrong because it is your journey to pick and choose which route you want to take. Which is again about following your bliss.

So I say to whomever is reading this blog, go forth and prosper in whatever way you choose. Be happy and always be nice to yourself. Do everything from the mindset of love and follow your intuition, or your gut as they say. If it feels good do it and be selfish enough to care about how you feel. There is much love here for you.


Deb Mertan


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