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Real Love Doesn’t Judge

Since I started this positive bombardment on myself, I have had quite a journey. I realize now how the baby steps come together, as I continuously find new ways to keep myself happy. It’s breaking an old habit and creating a new and improved habit. It’s sort of like trying to quit smoking. You are so used to smoking at certain times of the day, so when you start the quitting process it feels like a struggle, until you get a momentum going, or you vibrate at a higher frequency, or to say it more concisely, your habit starts to tip in a new direction that feels better to you. I have found that the more I love, not romantic love, the freer I feel. I find more things to be joyful about. And I feel more, easy going. And best of all I have learned not to judge anyone else for the choices they make. This is probably one of the hardest things to change. Even if someone doesn’t think it’s bad to interject their ideals on others, it is. You don’t have to agree with others’ ideals, but you shouldn’t voice your opinion or even think about it. You must let everyone believe their own way. But if you want to influence anyone to live a powerfully positive life, show them by example. This is actually where I am on my journey, and I LOVE IT.

I have seen what feeling my way through life is really like. And by feeling, I mean caring about how I feel. When a person is busy caring about how everyone else runs their life, it feels hard. But when we concentrate on our own feelings, we become very joyful people. And that is when other people want to know what you are doing differently, and you can say, I stopped struggling and started finding things that truly make me happy. I don’t worry or stress or hate or judge. I’m living MY authentic life. And they may follow your lead, or they may just think you’re a nut. But either way, it’s their choice. Everything is a choice. Miserable people choose to be that way. When a person creates their own misery, they must own it. Remind yourself that you are making a choice. When a person realizes that this emotion is truly a choice, maybe they will decide to make a new one. At first it will seem hard because you have been miserable for a while. But if you keep reminding yourself that you are trying a new tactic, you will eventually become a happy person. And then you can own the new you, the joyful you. You are the only one that can change your world.

To me, hate is just a fear of love. This has to be one of the most miserable feelings there is. I’m not saying that we choose misery on purpose. Maybe you were raised to hate by people that were raised to hate, and so on and so on. But it is so much harder to feel that way than it is to feel love. Once you realize that you have the right to feel any way you want to, you can start to feel good, then great, then fantastic. Life is supposed to be good for everyone. I know I say that a lot, but it’s true. But again, it’s up to you. For me, I choose happiness. And the happier I am, the more, good things come my way. I love my life, and I’m so happy to be me. And that is my wish for all people, young and old, to find their joy. Everyone needs help sometimes. I hope this blog has at least helped you a little. Maybe you found it because you are now ready to become a whole new you. That would be marvelous. So, until next time, there is lots of love for you here.


Deb Mertan


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