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You’ve Got to do It More than Once

Have you ever tried to change a habit? It’s hard sometimes. It’s like you get a few days in and you slip, and you do whatever it is you are trying not to do. Then you feel like a failure, and you stop trying for a while. But you truly want to change this habit, so you start again. This time you last a little longer, but again you slip up. But you know what? That’s okay. Yes, when you’re trying to change a habit it takes time and practice. You have to keep trying because you have been so used to doing whatever it is you’re doing that you have a momentum that pulls stronger in that direction. There will be a point, I’ll call it the tipping point, when your momentum will flow in the direction you are wanting. And yes, you may slip again, but this time it won’t bother you as much and you’ll get back on the horse, so to speak, a lot faster. And before you know it you will have changed to a new habit that you truly desire.

One habit that I have changed in my life is self-doubt, fear, insecurity, unkind thoughts about my body, and all other negative thoughts, which are all the samething. Over the years, I have learned to love myself and all others. It took a lot of practice, but it has helped me to slow down and take things easier, and to be more joyful every day. If you really think about it, there are only two emotions, joy and every negative emotion. We all have a choice to feel the way we want to feel. And I choose joy. It took me a while to do this on purpose, but now I feel good most of the time, no matter what is going on around me. I have fun no matter what I am doing or who I am doing it with. And I am truly enjoying the journey I am on. Once you can do this you will see how beneficial it is to keep yourself happy. You’ll also notice that things flow effortlessly, and your timing will be right on. And when you start feeling good on purpose, that’s when you pay attention to what is manifesting around you. You will see the correlation of what you have been thinking about and how you’ve been feeling and what has been showing up in your life. It’s a little tricky at first, but as you keep purposefully finding ways to be happy, you will get so good at it you’ll just do it automatically.

So now you know that whatever it is you want to change, you have to try more than once. But it is truly up to you how long it takes to get there. Just keep loving and finding joy. That is the real secret to a wonderful life. Now go out there and be the best you. And always remember there is great love here for you.


Deb Mertan


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