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Shit Happens!


As some of you might know I have a lot of roommates. I am a single woman with a four bedroom house and I rent out all the rooms to people I know and love. But just because I know and love them doesn’t mean they will always get along. And most of the time they do, but recently we have had an upset. There is a new guy here and no one seems to like him very much. He has been my friend for about ten years and I like him a lot. But for some reason one of the women I live with accused him of taking $100.00 out of her purse. Now normally this would be cause for quick action, but for some reason I wanted to wait to talk to him. Part of the reason was that the holidays were among us and I didn’t want an up roar during a time that is supposed to be joyful. And also I didn’t want to believe that this person would do something like that. And when I did talk to him I wanted to be prepared with a plan of action. As you know I am a firm believer in keeping myself in a good mood. I wanted to confront him when I was calm and filled with love in my heart. Of course the woman that told me about this didn’t want me to wait to talk to him, so I told her that she could confront him if she wanted to. She decided to wait for me to do it.

Thanksgiving arrived and we all had dinner together. It really went well. We had lots of other guests and after dinner we played games and ate pie. It was lovely. The next week after Thanksgiving we all went to Georgia to watch my son graduate with his master’s degree at Georgia Tech. Of course I didn’t want to ruin that either.

When we got back home I decided to at least confront him to see what he might say. Of course he denied it. He even went to the woman and told her that he would never do something like that but that he understood that because he was the new guy it was logical that she would think it was him. Now everyone in the house knew about the incident. That’s when one of the other women in the house said that she too was missing $100.00. Now things were looking bad for my friend. Everyone wanted him out. But I kept my cool because I have been practicing keeping calm for a while now and I know that getting upset doesn’t help. I trusted that the Universe would work this out and that somehow it would all end on a happy note.

So now Christmas arrived and all our guests came to party again. My daughter came with her boyfriend and was telling us about the house they are living in. she said that they had recently found out that the people they were living with were doing meth. This made them very unhappy. I told her that they could come live with me but that it would have to be in the living room with a partition. But she had one more month of school and the drive would be too much for them. And they really needed a private room anyway. Everyone in the house heard her story, including the new guy. But that was the end of it for the time being.

Later that week my daughter called me and asked about our situation with the new guy. At that point I had not made any decisions but this gave me the perfect opportunity to tell him that I needed the room for her. But again I didn’t want to ruin any bodies holiday so I waited until New Year’s Day. There was also one other little thing that needed addressing, and that was that he was having trouble keeping up with the rent. So this gave me a good place to start our conversation. I sat him down and said, I’m sorry to tell you this but I need to take the room back for my daughter. And besides you haven’t been up on the rent and I really depend on that money. That’s how I pay for my house. I need everyone to pay their share. He said he knew this was coming because he heard the conversation at Christmas. I told him he had a month to find a place and he was grateful for that. He totally understood and we even hugged and told each other we loved one another.

You see this could have been an ugly thing but I refuse to get myself all worked up anymore. It’s not worth it. I know things are always working out for me, and all of us actually. We just need to stay happy as much as possible.

Now I know it may seem that I was being insensitive to my other roommates that felt violated, but that was not the case. I needed to keep myself in a good frame of mind so that when I did talk to him things would just go smooth and there would be no anger involved. I couldn’t prove one way or the other that it was him and neither could they. And I also know that when you let the Universe take care of things it will always show you the path of least resistance. And it all worked out as I expected it would. People also have to realize that when shit does happen it is because of what they are vibrating. They are broadcasting a signal into the Universe and they are literally attracting what they are getting. When bad things happen it’s not the Universe picking on you. You are bringing it even if you don’t know you are. You have to be aware of what you are focused on and what is coming to you. The Universe doesn’t hear yes or no. It only sees what you give your attention to and brings you more of it. So if you are focused on something you like and you don’t put any doubt in your way the Universe will say, oh you like that here’s some more. But if you are saying no to something the Universe only sees that you have your attention there and says, oh here’s more of that as well. It’s up to each of us to pay attention to how we feel and what is coming to us as a result. So it is very important not to let anything bring you down.

When you are feeling sad or mad or any other ugly feeling it is because you are not in agreement with your inner being. Your inner being is always looking forward and looking on the bright side. It’s light hearted and loving everyone and everything. When you aren’t it feels bad. But when you are happy and feeling frisky you are in alignment with your inner self and you feel joyful and invincible. What I’m trying to get across to you is that you can’t hold anyone else responsible for how you feel. Even when shit happens you have to take responsibility for your part in it. Pay attention to where you are vibrating. When you start taking responsibility for everything that comes to you it will be easier to change your vibe and climb up the emotional ladder, so to speak. You have to feel good where you are now. And as Abraham-Hicks says, it’s okay if it’s just a small improvement because that’s all you can do, but it’s enough because that’s all you can do, but it’s enough. You see you will get a little bit better each day and before you know it you will be happy most of the time. And things will be good most of the time. Then when shit happens again after you have been keeping yourself in a good mood, which is also being in alignment with your inner being, it won’t seem as dramatic. And you will be willing to wait for the right moment to act. You see the contrast or shit that we have lived through is what has helped us know what we don’t want so that we can focus on what we do want. We need to lean more in the direction of what we do want so that things like people steeling from us is a thing of the past. Really, you have more control over your life than you realize. And now is the time to realize that you and only you can make the change. And when you do tip the scale toward everything is always working out for me, you will say, it happened because I asked for it and I want some more please.

I know this is going to sound weird but it is important to appreciate everything and everyone, even the bad stuff. Sometimes the Universe takes you to things you want in what seems to be bad ways, but it actually ends up being good. I know that we have all had things happen that later after thinking about it we realize that if that didn’t happen this good thing couldn’t have come.

When all the stuff started happening in my house I had to hold fast to my beliefs and not get all caught up in the problem. I had to let the solution come to me and it did. You can’t focus on the problem and the solution at the same time. You acknowledge the problem then quickly turn your attention to the solution. And once you turn, you need to trust that the answer will come and that everything will work out. Your higher self is always with you and always has your back.

These are the things you must stop if you want to live an exceptional life. Stop worrying. It does no good to worry. It accomplishes nothing. Stop struggling. When you struggle you just go deeper into the problem, like quick sand. Don’t hate. It only comes back to you in really ugly ways.

Here’s what to do to feel good and live the best life ever. Stay happy as much as possible. It feels so good to be joyful. Play more. Playing is one of the best ways to raise your vibration. Laugh as often as possible. Laughing is a great way to fill yourself with joy and release any unwanted negativity. Love more. I mean love the trees and the flowers and the birds and the people all around you. Just love. And most of all appreciate. Appreciate the beautiful day or the rainy day. Appreciate the food you eat and the people that grow the food. Just appreciate everything and everyone. Everything that you have lived has brought you to this place right here right now. Now is all there is so make it as good as possible.

Look, you are not going change your habits and beliefs over night, but if you start now to see which habits and beliefs serve you and which don’t you will start feeling better bit by bit each day. You have to do the work though. You have to look for ways to keep yourself happy, and in a short while you will see everything morph into a life with more joy and love than you could have ever imagined. It’s not hard but it is different than what you have been used to. But believe me it’s worth it.

Now get out there and show the world through your actions how it’s done. Show yourself how you want to live your life. Show the Universe that you trust that everything is always working out for you.

Remember there is always great love for you here.


Deb Mertan


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