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If You Don’t Ask, You Don’t Get

If you don’t ask, you don’t get, is just my version of a saying that has been around forever, which is, “Ask and it is given”. Or, “Knock and the door will be open to you”. There are so many ways to say this same thing. You reap what you sow, birds of a feather flock together. These are just reminders that when you have a desire and a belief that desire will manifest, and it must come to you. I have found that asking can come in different ways. Maybe you are a prayer person. When you pray you are asking for something. And that is fine, but don’t pray in a begging manner. When you pray, try believing that what you are asking for is already done. For example: Thank whomever you are praying to as if it has just been handed to you. That way it shows that you believe you deserve whatever it is you are asking for. Even if it is a healing for you or someone else, thank the Universe or God or your higher self, for making it so.

Sometimes you may have something you have to do like firing an employee, but that is something you don’t like doing. Then miraculously that employee comes to you and says, “I’m not happy here so I’m quitting”. Inadvertently you were asking for a solution to your problem and the Universe helped you get what you wanted in the simplest way possible. I’m sure you have experienced something like that in your life. One thing that happens to me a lot is my work schedule rearranging itself. I’ll have an opportunity to do something fun, but I’ll have work on that day. But I don’t fret about it. I trust that the Universe will make it so that I can do whatever it is. Then suddenly the day will be cancelled and I’ll be free to go have fun without feeling guilty for cancelling the day myself. I have a house cleaning service, and I’d rather have a customer cancel on me than me cancelling on them. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I do rearrange my schedule sometimes, but it is so much fun to see how the Universe works in such mysterious ways. Or I’ll have a phone call to make, but I can’t find time to make it. Or when I think about it, it’s too late in the evening. Then suddenly that person will call me and I can tell them what I need to say. Have you ever had that happen? I’ll bet you have. The best thing to remember is that things are always working out for you. The trick is to not worry and just let it come naturally. Life is supposed to be good for everyone. We all have choices to make. You can ask yourself, “Do I want to be happy, or do I want to be miserable”?It really is as simple as that.

Okay, I know that sometimes there will be things to be sad about, but the more you practice being happy, the less those things will occur. And then when they do you’ll be better equipped to handle whatever it is.

And prayer is not the only way we ask for things. Actually we are asking all day every day. Have you ever wanted something like a new car? You might look it up online or even go to the car lot and try one out. You check out all the great features it has to offer, and daydream about how it will feel when you actually have it. You don’t know how or when it will come, you just enjoy thinking about it. Then one day you bash into the back of the car in front of you on the freeway. No one is hurt but the car is totalled. At first you are upset, but then you find out that the insurance is going to pay off the old car and pay you enough money to get that new car you’ve been dreaming about. A week later you are driving off the lot in the exact car you have been wanting. This may seem like a fairy tale, but that is exactly what happened to me. Not only did I get the car I wanted, but it has every bell and whistle you can think of. And yes, I couldn’t be happier.

I have learned over the past few years that I truly can be, do and have everything I desire. When you allow the Universe or God or whomever you believe in, to bring you what you want, it will come naturally and easily. And when you truly love yourself you will be able to let go of the struggling and let the higher power help you with all your desires. It sounds simple because it is simple. As humans we make things much harder than they have to be. It’s like if it’s too easy we think we didn’t do enough to deserve it. But, you know what? We all deserve to be happy. It’s up to each and every one of us to decide what our happiness is, and give ourselves permission to have it. God didn’t put us here to suffer. That is purely man made bull doo doo. Laws are made by man. Saying sex is dirty is made by man. And marriage is another man made rule. Do you think cave people thought they had to be married before they had sex? No, the cave man picked a mate and off they went to create more cave people. I’m not sure how long it took the cave people to figure out where babies came from, but it’s a good thing they kept having them or we wouldn’t be here. I listen to Abraham Hicks a lot. And they say that they would change the wedding vows to say, “I like you pretty good, let’s see how it goes”, instead of “till death do us part”. I totally agree with that statement. What I’m trying to say to you is that, if it feels right to you, then it is right.

For example: In the not so distant past, people were put in jail for a very long time just for being gay. We’re only now starting to realize that being gay is not a choice, it is born in a person. Society has made people feel that they are bad or improper. But that is far from the truth. Gay people are spiritual beings just like we all are. And they have every right to be who they are and live as happy a life as anybody else.

Or what about people of color? Do you think they chose to be different so that some person who thinks himself superior can come along and whip the skin off their back? No, they are people that want to live their most authentic lives. And if people who think they are superior would try to see the benefit in letting everyone live a happy life, we could all live harmoniously together.

As for me, I love learning about different cultures. I think it’s fun, and fun is the name of the game as far as I’m concerned.

So, what is the gist of this blog? Well, it’s that we all need to relax and let life come to us instead of chasing whatever it is we want. Give the Universe a chance to show you how it loves to help you with whatever it is you want. Trust that what you want is okay, and that you deserve to be happy no matter what. And life is supposed to be good for all of us.

I hope you enjoyed this blog. I enjoyed writing it. I also hope you take heed and be your authentic selves. And remember there is always tremendous love here for you.

Your true friend,

Deb Mertan


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